July 03, 2012

Waiting for Mr. Right like a Firefly [Part 2]

Last week we talked about how the female firefly sits in the tall grass, unable to fly, waiting for a male firefly to come by, flashing the same lights she is. We learned that we should stay where God puts us, flashing our true lights and wait for our Mr Right to come by, flashing the same lights we do. If you have missed last week's post you can read it {here}.

This week I want to talk about Mr. Fireflys role and how the Misses need to act accordingly. The male is the one flying around trying to find the girl of his dreams, the one God picked for him. He does not where she is, she may be in the tall grass in the corner of the garden, in a bush next to the water fountain, on a rock next to the path or on the wall of a shed.

Every night he flies around flashing his light. He goes to church, reads his Bible, active the church, he's athletic or a book reader, he's into cars or carving, he'd been on 5 mission trips or he's never left his hometown.... whoever he is he flashes his light accordingly.

Flying around does not mean dating every girl he sees. Sometime, as he's flying he sees a light shine in the dark grass, his heart pounds..."Is this it?" "Is she the one?" but after watching from a distance he sees...she has a different light pattern. He goes on, looking, praying, searching. Sometimes he even finds a lady Firefly that flashes the same, but something doesn't "smell right". The next night he keeps on looking, flashing his true light. Oh, Mr. Firefly gets discouraged as well. He is doing everything right, he is staying honest and flashing his real light but how long does he have to wait and then... he sees her shyly returning his light pattern. They talk, he watches her, she continues to shine her true light, they start courting with the intention of marriage,because deep inside, he knows she's the one.

Nowadays we hear more and more how girl are the initiators of the relationship. We see the girls running after the boys, we see women asking men to marry them. What has happened? I once read the quote: "I often wonder if more girls were willing to be ladies, more guys would feel challenged to be gentlemen." There is a spirit in this world that makes a woman want to lead and because of this many men have backed down and have simply become followers. This backwards mentality has creeped into christian minds and hearts and we see young girls and boys in church do the same.

Ladies, feel encouraged. There are still guys out there that are gentlemen and leaders. They are looking for a girl that has the same pattern of flashes they do. They get discouraged because there are girls that seem to flash the same light but something doesn't smell right- their attitude. But don't forget when your waiting, to flash your light. Don't let that man who flashes just like you fly by. Its not wrong to be noticed but what is it he will notice: the real you or the someone you are acting to be.

I had some wonderful comments last week and one lady pointed out that some girls go roaming around, flashing a different light than their own ending up marrying someone who flashes different than they! For a long time they will try to pretend to be somebody they are not but this cannot last long. Nowadays men and women do not flash their own light and after 3, 6, 12+ months of marriage they suddenly see the true light. When husband and wife flash differently....marriages do not last or are real hard to keep together. We see just how important it is to "flash" our real "light", because only then can marriage work.

PS: Can you think of anything else we can learn from a firefly? I love hearing your thoughts.

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  1. interesting analogy! and I think I agree! I also think women need to hold men accountable to be the men they were created to be and want to be...works here anyway.
    I am your newest follower..pls follow back if you can.

    1. You are right. If we as woman stay within our role and encourage/let the men around us do what they were created for we will live happily together.

      Thank you for following and I joined your blog as well!☺

  2. Newest follower from thoughtful Thursday. Love all your little bird connections on your blog. Very creative. Love for you to stop by and return the follow.


    1. Thank you for the compliments and for following! :) I'm your newest follower as well!

  3. What a precious and accurate analogy! I just love this. I'm putting it in my pocket for future reference with young girls!

    Thanks for linking up with WIP Wednesday!
    Mary Beth

  4. What an apt analogy! My mom and I were just talking yesterday about why couples who grew up in a good church and married seemingly good people seem to suddenly go off the deep end a few years down the road. I think it's because their heart was never "on the right end" to begin with... they were "flashing signals" that weren't their own, as you put it, and after a few years of putting up a front to everyone, including their spouse, finally gave up and decided to "do their own thing" after all. Some young people even feel like they'll "never find a spouse" unless they conform to what they think is a more desirable "flashing pattern", and thereby end up married to someone who doesn't know the real "them." As you said, this usually ends up disastrously!
    I am a new follower-- found your blog through your outfit feature at Fresh Modesty :) Love everything about it! Hubby and I have been happily married for 6 and 1/2 years, and we had a LDR as well-- though not as long as yours ;) Keep up the good work for the Lord!

    1. It is very sad to see how many young people with a lot of potential pour it all down the drain. I've been wanting to write a post about "Making God YOUR God". To many young people grow up with the God of their fathers but never make him their God and in time, their lives and actions will show it.

      Glad to welcome you to my blog. :)


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